by ryanyokome | Jul 5, 2013 | Shadow Work
I started marketing through Social Media in 2006. My motto was, “fake it till you make it.” Heard of it before? Well, it was an absolute fail. Mostly because the people who do the best through Social Media are the ones who are the most authentic. And I was far from. Simply because I believed other people wouldn’t receive the real me well.
After a few months I felt like a failure. But from the outside I looked like a massive success. Still though, throughout the day I could feel all of my shadows eating at me, telling me to push forward and continue to hide the person nobody knew about except Kris Britton.
It’s great lessons to learn along the path of success. I explain more detail in today’s video.
Quote Of The Day
“Your life will be transformed when you make peace with your shadow. The caterpillar will become a breathtakingly beautiful butterfly. You will no longer have to pretend to be someone you’re not. You will no longer have to prove you’re good enough. When you embrace your shadow you will no longer have to life in fear. Find the gifts of your shadow and you will finally revel in all the glory of your true self. Then you will have the freedom to create the life you have always desired. ― Debbie Ford
So I’ve included a little QUIZ for you. 😉
Choose one of the following answers that’s best suited for who you truly are. Please answer TRUTHFULLY! I’ll be using this info for further marketing purposes too.
Imagine that your life is a house with many rooms. Some rooms you like, some you feel ashamed of. How many people do you allow to see all your rooms?
A. Nobody
B. One signifigant person – a spouse, lover, best friend.
C. A small handful of people who know me that well
D. There are many people in my life who know me that well
Leave your answer by commenting below….
In total Gratitude,
Ryan
PS: If you could also let me know how you’re liking the new content and blog??
by ryanyokome | Jun 30, 2013 | Mindset, Shadow Work
What is The Success Shadow?
It’s the opposite of what you’ve been chasing. Instead of going into the light, we’re going to dive into the darkness from your past….and embrace it.
After working with thousands of people over the last six years I’ve heard all kinds of reasons why people feel they’re “stuck” in their business.
I don’t have the time or money. I’m just too comfortable where I am. I procrastinate. There is something wrong with me. It’s too much work.
On the surface I used to think, “just get over it! Change your story! Make a decision and your life will change!” But it’s not that simple….
Even though we know why we’re stuck, we remain bound to the same results. So we question our business, our skills, our leadership and maybe even if we’re cut out for success. Everything seems be to an uphill battle of stress and challenges.
So we become “light chasers” believing new opportunities will give us what we’ve been searching for. A feeling of emptiness that success is ever eluding our grasps. The shadow belief that success will ease the pain we’re running from. If only I could become more successful it will fix all the problems within my life, and of myself.
The Success Shadow is very simple. All of your true potential and power exists in your past shadows that you’ve avoid, suppressed or tried to hide from yourself or others. This could be actual event’s that you’ve tried to run away or hide from because you were ashamed or fearful others would judge you for. It could also be suppressed emotions from something as simple as your parents telling you, “don’t touch that! Don’t do that! What did you just do?!” Stepping out of your power and creating a Shadow belief that says, “I’m not worthy and I’m not good enough.”
Over the years I’ve learned (including myself!) most people have a Shadow belief that says “I’m not good enough” with an Ego that screams “I’m going to prove to the world I AM good enough.”
All of your gifts exist in your shadow. It’s your natural talents and ability to contribute to the world with why you’re here.
I encourage you to take the exercise below and begin to discover your shadows. The Universe is always showing us…US. So by understanding this process you can better begin to embrace aspects of your life that are stopping your right now from reaching your full potential within your life.
This exercise will take you through the wonderful gift of projection. The easiest way to help you shed some light on your shadow. Whatever we see in others, is in fact what we dislike, or like about ourselves.
It is my mission day after day to find new ways to inspire others to go on this lifelong journey to clean up their past, to forgive themselves for their flaws and shortcomings, to make peace with their humanity, to open up to their divinity and allow themselves to be guided by a power greater than themselves. – Debbie Ford
EXERCISE:
This week invest time into identifying your shadow. Before we can see what is holding you back in business, we have to bring light to your darkness.
1. For the next 7 days be aware of how you judge others. Any name calling, negative feelings or gossip towards others is always a projection of our internal selfs. Our words and thoughts are a mirror, giving us back the shadow beliefs what we think of ourselves.
On the flip side, think of the positive traits you notice about others. From courage to confidence whatever positive projections you see about others, are also a mirror of aspects within ourselves we admire (and may be buried deep within our shadows.)
2. What advice are you giving to others? Often the advice we’re telling our close friends, family and co-workers is a reminder for us to do the same. If you read others Facebook posts you’ll notice a common thread of indiviudals struggling with their businesses, yet offering advice to grow a successful business. In more cases then not, that person is projecting the advice to themselves unconsciously. I know I still have to catch myself to this day. Am I providing advice to people with my status or is it simply a message to myself of something I’m not doing?
In Gratitude,
Ryan
PS: I cannot wait to read your comments below, so be sure to post up your shadow beliefs!
