Living Without Fear In Your Home Business

Living Without Fear In Your Home Business

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Do you struggle with fear in your home business?

Pitching your opportunity to others will bring up your personal fear story. You know what I mean right? Being worried if this person will accept you, like you, or resist what you have to offer.

These are all normal feelings, but here’s the thing.

Most people run away from fear. If you don’t move through the resistance the fear will continue to show up in your life. Exercise in courage is the way to develop courage.

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And in order to do that, you have to face your fears. Fear is an illusion and what do most home business owners do? Fear the worst!

The mind will always assume the worst. This will keep you stuck, frustrated and spinning your wheels with in business.

Here’s a simple question to ask yourself today to help identify your fear.

Is anything bothering me today? If yes, Why?

Find out what it is, and make a decision to face it head on. Pick up the phone, meet the person, do the meeting. Whatever is freakin’ you out most, just do it!

I think you’ll enjoy this FREE Video training I did. How To Make More Money From Home The Spiritual Way. It’s about 10 minutes and you’ll get a lot of value how to breakthrough fear.

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Love & Gratitude,

Ryan

3 Invisible Signs You Fear Rejection

3 Invisible Signs You Fear Rejection

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I’m here in my home town of Vancouver, BC Canada sitting in a Starbucks writing to you on a Monday morning.

I’m drinking my Green Tea and thinking of the 3 Invisible Signs that keep business owners stuck, frustrated and confused on how to grow their business.

Fear Of Rejection.
Fear Of Rejection.
Fear Of Rejection.

Okay, so maybe just one thing. Lol. But it’s TRUE right?

In my first year of business this was really hard for me. I’ve learned to “manage” it now, since I can guarantee you it will never go away.

I used to think…

“If I talk to that person about my business, they probably won’t take me seriously because I’m not making much money myself!”

“What if this person thinks I’m selling them, and the conversation gets weird!”

I started digging into why this happens, and what I can do to overcome it.

If you’re fearing rejection, it’s stemming from something deeper than just someone rejecting your business.

You’re really fearing them rejecting you.

Like the time you wanted to ask out that guy/ or girl and they shot you down. OUCH.

Like the time you had a great idea in class at high school, raised your hand and shared your idea only to have the entire class and teacher laugh at you. STUPID IDEA.

Like the time you wanted the brand new Barbie doll or GI Joe as a child and your parents told you, “No we can’t afford it.” I NEVER GET WHAT I WANT.

Are you starting to understand?

You’re walking around with an incredible business to change peoples lives while dragging behind you five suitcases packed with the fears of rejection from your past.

Why?

Because somebody shot you down.

These are the invisible signs that you fear rejection.

I call it our shadow beliefs. The great Carl Jung said, “the shadow is all the parts of ourselves we would rather not be.”

In other words, you’ll avoid doing the “work” to sign-up people into your business because of the rejection from your painful past.

Maybe you started your business because unconsciously you felt “Success will bring you happiness.”

The truth is, until AND ONLY until you learn to dig into these invisible signs of your fear of rejection you’ll struggle to change your life.

 

Invisible Sign #1

You’re A People Pleaser.

If someone rejects you, then chances are it will shatter your world of that person liking you. Removing your people pleasing status quo.

So the voice goes off in your head, DO NOT TALK TO THEM ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS!!

Stop this. I have plenty of people that hated and rejected me at first. Now they love me and can’t thank them enough for helping them get life changing results.

 

Invisible Sign #2

You’re The Nice Guy/Girl

You have the facade of being super nice. Never pushing people, never getting into confrontations, and avoiding challenging conversations.

Life is a bowl full of cherries!

If you’re doing this, you may be afraid of people seeing you as anything but NICE.

Challenge people and stop being so nice. Don’t mistake being nice, with caring. You can still care for people, but challenge them on why their broke, stuck, unhealthy and frustrated.

If you’re feeling this, you’ve likely had an experience in your past of voicing your opinion only to be shutdown by someone you cared about.

 

Invisible Sign #3

Living In Your Fear Story

You’re projecting into the future all the possibilities of NEGATIVE and PAINFUL emotionally charged feelings that could happen IF you bring your business up.

Notice I said IF. Because it hasn’t happened yet. You’re projecting the outcome before it’s even happened.

I find this most common inside our industry.

Go in with a “neutral” outlook. I don’t like to go in with a negative or even positive potential outcome.

I go in with a neutral outcome because this allows me to not be attached to a specific yes or no as to whether they’ll sign up.

You’ll experience A LOT less of an emotional roller coaster ride with this approach.

 

Well my time is up at Starbucks and my butt is sore from sitting! Lol

I’d love to hear your comments and thoughts on your biggest take away.

Please like and share with your friends!

In gratitude,

Ryan

 

6 Life Lessons From My First Triathlon

6 Life Lessons From My First Triathlon

1. Give life everything you’ve got. You’ll never be disappointed.

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2. Surround yourself with people who support your dreams (part of my family here)

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3. Remember to smile. Enjoy the experience of life. =)

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4. When you feel like quitting, ask yourself…”Why am I doing this again?”

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5. Push yourself to achieve things you never thought were possible for you.

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6. If you’re gonna work your ass off, get some bling along the way

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In Gratitude,

Ryan

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3 Reasons To Love Fear

3 Reasons To Love Fear

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How many times have you felt yourself shrink?

How many times have you made yourself small enough to fit into some role?

How many times have you kept your mouth shut when you wanted to speak out or handed over your power to someone who didn’t have your best interests at heart?

How many times have you told yourself, “I can’t. I’m not strong enough. I’m not courageous or confident enough to be all that I desire to be?”

 

1. EMBRACE IT

Fear is built into our human operating system. It is a useful emotion that has gone seriously awry. Fear can make us choose what we believe will keep us safe even when the opposite is true. Learn to embrace the scary aspects of your fear.

 

2. FIND THE GIFT

Fear can make us believe that we can’t do it, we are wrong, the cost is too high, the path ahead too difficult. Fear disguises itself with the voice of certainty, filling us with worry, doubt, and even dread. Fear is a very real emotion that can render us powerless. What’s the gift behind these emotions?

 

2. CHOOSE LOVE

Every time fear wins, you lose. Every time you choose fear, you lose sight of your highest aspirations. You fall prey to being controlled by your history rather than rise to the future that you desire and deserve.

 

In Gratitude,

Ryan

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Feeling Depressed? How To Release Toxic Emotions

Feeling Depressed? How To Release Toxic Emotions

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It’s time to wake up. Over 13 percent of the American population are on antidepressants.

This really pisses me off. Do you want to know the TRUTH behind why people feel wounded, scared and hopeless? It’s not something your medical doctor is going to tell you.

You can always spot a Depressive because they wear a long face, their smiles are minimal, and the flame in their inner spirit is a dim flicker. Because they do not believe that new beginnings or exciting possibilities exist for them, it is difficult for them to let go of the past and move on.

Get ready to learn how to forgive yourself, and move on with your authentic strength.

THE DEPRESSIVE

The Depressive is the sad sack of the bunch, and gloom and doom are their constant companions. Always looking for what’s wrong with themselves and their lives, they are masters at internalizing and holding on to their toxic emotions.

Their deep disappointment and unprocessed anger at the outer world and those who occupy it are the culprits that destroy their spirits and wash away their dreams. Without realizing it, they cling to a past that has betrayed them, and in the process they avert anything good that may be trying to come their way.

Scared of the future and overwhelmed by the fear that they will be unable to handle it, they unconsciously choose to hold on to the pain they know rather than chance what unknown pain might come to them should they open up to something new. In other words, the devil they know is better than the devil they don’t know.

Depressives are addicted to misery, their own brand of negative internal ranting (which sounds something like, What’s wrong with me? Why me? Poor me. It shouldn’t have happened to me. Why don’t I ever get mine?) and this leaves them in a vicious cycle of pain and hopelessness.

Depressives set themselves up to be preyed upon by others because they have squashed their true nature along with their God-given instincts and traded them for a hopeless, catastrophic fantasy that has a miserable ending. Wounded, scared, and without the resources to help themselves at an early enough stage, they begin the painful process of rejection and repression.

You can always spot a Depressive because they wear a long face, their smiles are minimal, and the flame in their inner spirit is a dim flicker. Because they do not believe that new beginnings or exciting possibilities exist for them, it is difficult for them to let go of the past and move on.

Somewhere along the line they sold their souls to be liked, to be loved, to be included, or to belong, and it didn’t pay off. In fact, they were more than likely rejected, shunned, abused, or betrayed. How depressing is that? In their minds, life has turned against them and God either doesn’t exist or has abandoned them. Their painful emotions were too much for them to digest or handle, so they did the only thing they knew how to do; they suppressed them, hid them, and withdrew from the world.

The Depressive is just that, depressing because they are unable to see anything other than the small, dark world they have created for themselves. The possibilities that exist for their future are blurred by their inability to see what awaits them outside the confines of the grim story they are living within. Feeling desperate and alone, they crawl inside their wounds and painfully hopelessly go through life just hoping to survive.

THE DEPRESSIVE’S SHAME

Hopeless, hurt, rejected, abandoned, unfixable, helpless

THE DEPRESSIVE’S CHALLENGE

The Depressive’s challenge is to recognize the repetitive, negative loop they are listening to hour after hour, day after day and stop it. They must fearlessly go into their painful emotions and give themselves permission to safely express the volcanic, negative, toxic energy that lurks beneath the surface of their depression, causing them to experience the aftershock sometimes years after an emotional trauma.

By giving themselves permission to release their pent-up emotions, the Depressive can once again experience the full range of their feelings, forgive and move on. They must work hard to surround themselves with positive people and create a new vision for their lives. Working with those less fortunate may be their ticket to freedom.

– Debbie Ford

Are you seeing it now? I’ve dealt with my fair share of pain through my life batting depression. Mostly feeling victim to my circumstances and lack of success.

Then I finally realized everything was just the story I was stuck onto. Repeating itself over and over again day after day. Break your cycle and change your filter. You got this.

In Gratitude,

Ryan

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